I’ve been thinking a lot about well-being. What it means. What it feels like. What it looks like.
For a time I thought I was supposed to pursue happiness. But in all honesty, I found that pursuit quite exhausting. Limiting myself to one emotion, setting one feeling or experience above all the others, well, it felt off kilter, out of balance, as though emotionally I was walking with a limp.
But well-being? That’s a lovely thing to pursue. It doesn’t mean making choices that lead to a constant state of euphoria, but making choices that contribute to growth, healing, nourishment.
In a nutshell, it’s doing what is good for me.
I looked up well-being in the dictionary, and this was my favorite definition:
“A satisfactory condition of existence.”
I love that. Not exemplary, not perfect, not amazing, but satisfactory.
I don’t know about you, but I often feel societal pressure to be amazing. To “do all the things.” That is also exhausting.
How much nicer to step back from all the hurly-burly and think: “How can I contribute to my well-being today?”
I like starting my days with that thought. It quiets all the chatter of “ought to’s” and helps me think about what is good for me, my family, our life.
Earlier this week it meant that I took a few hours alone to read Victoria magazines and drink tea and write in my journal. That day I needed grounding and resting and inspiring so I could get back to “normal life” with a strengthened heart and restored body.
Today it meant taking breaks from my outrageously long to-do list to sit and chat with good friends. Those connections are vital to my well-being.
Tomorrow it means getting up early to stock the car with audio books, healthy snacks, and the updated GPS so Bear and I can have a jolly, stress-free drive to our last medieval camping trip of the season.
And tonight it means taking time for gratefulness before I fall asleep: getting the last of the apple and avocado trees planted, homemade cookies for the weekend, a good man who loves me and makes me laugh, great caretakers to look after our farm while we’re gone, and the anticipation of a campfire tomorrow night.
What is something you’re doing today to contribute to your well-being? xo