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Embracing Observation

When life tosses new responsibilities my way, I need to sit with them awhile, figure out how life looks and feels with them in it, and find a way to shuffle and shift to make room for them in a way that doesn’t leave me frazzled and overwhelmed.

So I’ve been hibernating a bit this week, slipping into the role of Observer Of My Own Life, and finding it rather fun.Β When you’re an observer, you aren’t a judge or a jury or an executioner. You’re simply there to watch and report the facts. No condemnation is allowed, no shame or lavish helpings of guilt, just observations.

 

At the end of each day I went through my discoveries and made adjustments and changes and improvements, then put them into practice the next day and observed some more.

It’s been so interesting.

I really do love learning about how I tick, what I’m good at, what I’m rotten at, what things I’m afraid of or intimidated by, what makes me happy or excited, what sets off triggers, what makes me feel instantly comfy. I like to do what I can to help myself be my best self so I can walk through this life in peace with a full heart and a settled mind.

Here are some of the things I’ve learned or been reminded of this week, things I can do to help me thrive and navigate life in a healthy way:

  1. Sleep. Such a simple thing but wow, it makes all the difference in the world for me. I went to bed an hour earlier and my 1:40 a.m. alarm was so much easier to rise to. It’s nice to not be a zombie.
  2. Exercise. My non-farm work involves copious amounts of sitting as I do my law firm work and my writing work. So hoofing it on the treadmill keeps my back and neck from getting stiff and keeps me limber and alert.
  3. Quiet. I thrive with moments of quiet throughout the day, especially first thing in the morning. Bear and I have renewed our practice of having breakfast together on the back veranda. Even if it’s chilly, we just pull blankets over our laps and do it anyway. It is bliss to be out there, watching the various animals wake up, listening to the wind in the trees, talking about whatever comes into our heads or just sitting quietly and companionably together.
  4. Reading. I need books. Need them. The stories and experiences and thoughts written within their pages never, ever fail to enliven my brain and renew my love of life.
  5. Writing. Setting aside time each morning to write in my journal, no matter how rambling or disjointed, helps me settle my whirring brain and work through any issues that may be niggling at me.
  6. Food. I grew up in a world where women were pressured to do everything from scratch. Everything. All. The. Time. Anything tinned or premade was looked down upon as not-good-enough, or a sign that this-woman-doesn’t-really-love-her-family. Such hogwash! I didn’t even realize I’d carried that expectation with me until recently, and when it hit me I thought, “Oh bugger!” Since then I’ve rebuilt my relationship with food and it has been glorious. Taking away the expectations and pressure has made food fun again. How lovely to know I can cook/eat whatever I want. Seriously. It’s like someone gave me Christmas presents all over again and I’m delighted. Food has become such fun. If I’ve got the energy, I love doing fiddly stuff with 18 ingredients and 12 steps, but if I don’t, it’s baked potatoes, or pasta with premade sauce, or even a big bowl of cold cereal. And the best part, it’s all OK. Premade, homemade, it doesn’t matter, we’re just so lucky to have food to eat and people to share it with.
  7. Nature. Being outside is pure happiness to me and when I let myself get stuck inside for too long, I suffer for it. So I’ve been carving out nature time every day, even if it’s just walking through my gardens or standing barefoot in the grass or picking weeds in the orchard. It contributes greatly to my well-being.
  8. Friends. I know we all go through lonely times when we move away or our loves move away, or things get busy or people get sick or money gets tight and we can’t afford drives or coffees or lunches. The last couple of months I’ve been much more intentional about friend time, whether it’s chatting on WhatsApp or meeting for tea and cookies on the veranda or stealing 30 minutes to sit down and talk on the phone. What a difference it makes to have those connections, to listen and be listened to, to share and laugh and cry and laugh some more. I’m going to keep doing this, maintaining the connections that make my life so rich.

How about you? Have you made changes in your life recently to help you thrive? I’d love to hear about them. xo




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Liz (Good Things) - Spending time by and in the ocean, Krista… re rejuvenating xx

Paula McInerney - We all need things to ground us, and comfort us too. Women are hard on themselves, me included, trying to do everything.

Tandy I Lavender and Lime - Love the use of black and white photographs for this post and well done on adjusting your relationship with food πŸ˜€

Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella - I think you described the relationship with food well. I love pickling and complicated recipes but I also do microwave or quick recipes. Whatever people want to do to fit in their lives is great πŸ˜€

Nina Zinn - I’m Travis sister and love following you on FB but would like to get your blog post sent to my email, sign me up. Thank you for the inspiration you are to all of us!

Eileen | The Food Avenue - Thanks for the tips! And I love the use of black and white photos, makes the article very relaxing πŸ™‚ I need to take some of this advice.

Fiona @ London-Unattached - I need this kind of checklist – I am dreadful at remembering the things that make me feel alive!

Wonderful photography

Elissa - Love your ideas, they sound like really thoughtful ways to thrive. I feel like I need each of those things too.

Rosemarie - I agree with the part about maintaining connections although sometimes I find it hard when we live so far apart, the time difference and when I feel my interests no longer have common ground with old friends.

Holly - I have started to try and work out. I wasn’t at all and now I am making an effort to do so. Great photos!

Ana O - Introspection is such a healthy exercise! I don;t do it as often as I should, so this is a nudge in the right direction πŸ™‚

Elaine J. Masters - Self knowledge comes from experience and facing change bravely. It’s the best way to grow and that again teaches us how to live wisely. Keep going.

Turkey's For Life - Completely agree with number 7. We both get so tired of being at our laptops for so long each day. We always make the time to go out for a walk and enjoy our surrounding nature – and we make sure we sit by the window when at the laptops indoors! πŸ™‚

Anna @ shenANNAgans - I really needed to read this post today Krista. I have been struggling to stay focused, that wanting everything to happen now, yesterday, last week, last year thing is strong. Exercise, the right food and nature are missing from my mix. Packing the gym clothes for a walk in nature this arvo and making a green smoothie for brekkie. πŸ™‚

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